Healing the Primal Mother Wound

How We Can ReBirth And Create Mothers of New Earth

“We can heal our world collective psyche back to wholeness in several generations if we choose to change our culture, and make mother-baby bonding and Womb Consciousness our priority as a society, rather than business and profits” 

Fountain of Life’s Dr Azra Bertrand spent a year at the National Institute of Health in the Child Health and Human Development Division during the late 1990’s, researching neuro-endocrine responses in mother-child bonding, and shares his findings.

This disrupted bond can be caused by subtle energetic and emotional disconnections, not just obvious abandonment traumas- a baby is highly sensitive and attuned to his or her environment, especially in the Womb.

Results of the research into the disruption of natural mother-baby bonding, includes a significant increase in:

  • Anxiety, depression, erratic and violent behaviour
  • Disrupted brain function and hormonal responses (e.g. wired for fear and pain, rather than positive neural pathways and bliss hormones)
  • Aggressive and violent or non-consensual sexual impulses
  • Diminished social skills and emotional connectivity
  • Tense, angry, afraid, distrustful of the world and others

BUT if the disruption is healed and a new model of bonding is established, all emotional wounding and bio-chemical damage is reversed and disappears within several generations – healing an entire lineage, and potentially the world.

Within our own life, the effects of a disrupted mother-baby bond (including our time in the Womb) can be healed and released from the epigenetic memory.

We can choose to heal ourselves at a foundational root level, and to heal our lineage. We can support mothers-to-be to birth a new generation wired to thrive in their natural birthright of bliss, love and wholeness. The choice is ours.

What this can flower into our lives is miraculous:

  • Radiant health, vitality, longevity, physical healing
  • Ecstatic love, Sacred Union, sacred sexual relationships
  • Peace, wholeness, joy, beauty
  • Purpose, abundance, clarity
  • Orgasmic birth, healing a new generation
  • Oneness, interconnection, harmony with the whole

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The following is a transcript of a conversation with FOL’s Azra Bertrand, MD, healer and visionary scientist, who has dedicated his life to helping people return to their Original Blueprint of love and biological wholeness. Here he speaks about his research with the National Institute of Health in Mother-Baby bonding, and the vital important of honoring, supporting and protecting pregnant women, valuing the role of motherhood and fatherhood, and focusing our world resources on mother-baby bonding, and healing our own negative gestation imprints….

Q: You have participated in paradigm-shifting research with the National Institutes of Health in the science of Mother-Baby bonding could you tell us a little more about it?

A: In the late 90’s I had the opportunity to be part of a primary research team at the National Institutes of Health, in the Child Health and Human Development division. The team I worked with was an internationally recognized group of scientists, the direct scholarly lineage of the first mother-baby bonding researchers of Bowlby, and then Harlowe, who did the seminal work in the field starting in the 1950’s. Millions of dollars were poured into the research project.

Q: What was the purpose of the research?

A: The goal of the research was to learn about what happens to our behavior, emotional responses and brain chemistry when the mother-baby bond is disrupted compared to healthy mother-baby bonding. We call this early mother-baby relationship primal bonding– it includes physical nourishment, feeding, touch, emotions of love, eye contact, play and what we now know to be the exchange of the subtle energies of the bio-magnetic and bio-electric fields of the heart for example.

Q: What was the experimental set-up?

A: The research project involved observing large colonies of monkeys who had either been raised in a normal loving mother-baby relationship in a wild-type setting, or who had been separated from their mother when they were young. The young monkeys who had been separated from their mothers were raised in one of two different conditions:

1)   With a warm cloth doll that they bonded to like a mother

2)   With a group of other similar baby monkeys without mothers, that they tried to bond with like a mother

The monkeys who were raised with a warm cloth doll experienced a ‘mother’ who was more like a security blanket or stuffed animal than a true mother. But this cloth mother was predictable and thus calming. She was on a spring, so she would rock them which was soothing. She would never scare them or hurt them, though she could not give love or interact. This situation models an absent mother, a situation that is so common all over the world today as many mothers have to work away from the home.

The group of monkeys who were raised with other emotionally immature baby monkeys would try to bond with each other, but they were all so anxious, scared, volatile, agitated and unpredictable, that they were little help to each other. When they needed comfort and reassurance, they would attempt to cling in a big bunch to each other, but because they did not feel secure and stable themselves, they could not provide this emotional nourishment to each other. This situation models being raised by a mother who is herself emotionally immature, wounded, anxious and volatile.

These were compared in part to free-ranging monkeys in a huge multi-acre outdoor forested colony that closely simulated monkeys in the wild.

Q: How did you choose to get involved in this work?

A: I knew on a deep, intuitive level that a loving mother-baby relationship is the fundamental determinant of every aspect of our health and wholeness – the cornerstone of our psycho-spiritual, emotional and biological health. All of our other human capacities rest on the success or failure of this primal mother-baby bonding.

Q: What is the history behind this research?

A: The earliest research in the field was done in the 1950’s by Francis Bowlby, Ph.D., who proved that a baby monkey deprived of all maternal contact actually dies, i.e. their entire biology shuts down, not just their emotional health. We see some extreme examples similar to this in human babies who have been left neglected in orphanages in war torn countries who have actually died from lack of human affection and love. But more relevant to all of us, is that everyone in our modern culture has experienced a disrupted mother-baby bond to some degree, which is what I wanted to learn more about in the research I conducted.

My role in the research was to observe the behavior, emotional responses and the neuro-endocrine chemistry of the monkeys who had experienced a disrupted mother-baby bonding, compared to normal or ‘wild’ monkeys. I would sit for hours watching them, recording every interaction – for example if they were happy, playing, grooming, mating, fighting, vocalizing, aggressive, anxious, fearful, wringing their hands, rocking to self-soothe, etc. I would record all of it. Monkeys have an emotional and behavioral range that is incredibly similar to humans.

The experience was truly heartbreaking. The monkeys with disrupted maternal bonding – i.e. those raised on either the cloth doll or with other young monkeys without a mother – were behaviorally terribly distorted. They were much more aggressive and volatile. They had a very diminished capacity for social and grooming skills. They had fewer friends because they didn’t know how to treat the other monkeys well. The disrupted monkeys were extremely anxious, with both social anxiety as well as free-floating anxiety. They would wring their hands, or rock back and forth to try to soothe themselves like an autistic baby.

When the monkeys were mature enough to have their own children they were much less nurturing, and more abusive and neglectful than the wild monkeys. Some of the mothers rejected their own newborn babies, who had to be adopted by another mother or humans or the baby would have died. Or, in other cases the mothers were less affectionate, less patient, or more likely to be angry or punishing. Some of the fathers were so aggressive that they had to be separated from their offspring so they wouldn’t kill them or eat them. This is in contrast to a typical well-adjusted male monkey with good mothering who would often play with his children.

Thus, the effects of an interrupted primal bonding between mother and baby are passed on to the next generation of children. A female baby who did not bond well with her mother will not be as nurturing a parent, and will pass on the wounds to her children.

Q: What about aggression or violent emotional or sexual behavior?

A: An aggressive personality is a result of an inner agitation and feeling threatened, which is a direct consequence of maternal deprivation. Thus, the monkeys with disrupted primal bonding were very aggressive, particularly the males. This was not a survival advantage as some like to believe, the disturbed male monkeys were more likely to be killed or injured, were less skilled in maintaining a stable monkey community and were less likely to be chosen as mates. They were also more sexually aggressive, with more incidents of non-consensual or painful, fearful mating. Normally the female monkey presents herself to the male monkey she wishes to mate with, and mating is also a mutually beneficial social act that helps solidify social bonds. It is a very different behavior when an agitated male grabs or pushes another monkey into mating as an act of dominance or aggression, which of course upsets the other monkey.

One of the ways the disrupted monkeys discharged their psycho-emotional agitation and tensions was sexually. So if a monkey was agitated, they would often grab a monkey near them and aggressively rut or mate them, sometimes painfully or violently. Many times I would see the situation when an upset male monkey (due to social rejection or loss of a treat, for example), would then, in an agitated state, turn and grab the nearest monkey to release that energy of agitation onto them via violent-dominant mating. The ‘receiving’ monkey would at times display fear faces or make painful cries.

Normal mating was more ‘affiliative’ – it was about establishing or strengthening social ties, and there was more of a willing participation in both the male and female monkeys.

Q: What did you find when you looked at the neurotransmitters and brain chemistry of the monkeys?

A: The monkeys who lacked maternal affection had a very disturbed brain chemistry, in other words a very unbalanced neuro-endocrine signature. Our neuropeptides, neurohormones and other neurotransmitters directly reflect our emotional state. If we are happy and relaxed we have a very different neurochemistry than when we are afraid, tense and angry. The maternally-deprived monkeys had much higher levels of stress hormones, such as cortisol, and lower levels of the neurotransmitters that promote relaxation and happiness, such as serotonin.

Q: So their neuro-endocrine chemistry had been disrupted and damaged?

A: Absolutely, their state of consciousness and their perception of the world was completely different in the monkeys with disrupted primal bonding. The monkeys in the wild viewed the world as an essentially peaceful and secure place that could support their needs. They were more content, they were better able be affectionate with and bond with the other monkeys in the tribe. Whereas the maternally-deprived monkeys created a field of chaos, fear, attack and disharmony around them. And these neurologic and emotional problems were persistent – they lasted throughout their lives, as it tends to do in humans unless they pursue a path of deep emotional healing.

This research is being done because what is happening to these monkeys with the disrupted mother-baby bond exactly parallels what is happening to children in our modern human cultures. The monkeys who are being raised by other children – by emotionally underdeveloped attachment figures who aren’t capable of being a solid, secure, loving, parent figure – is very similar to what happens when human mothers, who themselves are emotionally wounded, with unresolved fears, anger, tension, grief or trauma patterns try to raise a baby.

One of the questions that fascinated the top researchers on our team was whether the monkeys raised with the cloth doll ‘mother’ did better than the monkeys raised amongst other scared and agitated young monkeys – i.e. whether it was better to have an absent, but safe and predictable mother (who at least wouldn’t attack you or provoke fear) or a volatile, unpredictable parent who might scare or hurt you due to outbursts of aggression. In some ways it appeared that the monkeys raised with the cloth doll ‘mothers’ did better in the long run. It is similar to when children keep a stuffed animal or cuddly toy with whom they feel safe and form attachment bonds, and project a parental role onto, sometimes keeping these toys into adulthood. These stuffed toys helped make them feel safe, loved and OK – they were constant, predictable and would never hurt them.

Q: Do these emotional disturbances keep getting worse and worse as they are passed down to subsequent generations of monkeys?

A: You can see through this research that if there is a continual disturbance that interrupts the mother-baby bonding across a society, there will be a pronounced devolution in the state of consciousness of the species that continues down generation upon generation until it is healed. This of course is what has been happening in modern human cultures, and is why we live in a violent, disturbed, aggressive world. Whether this pattern heals or worsens from generation to generation depends upon the culture itself, i.e. whether the culture continues to support a system that interrupts this mother-baby bonding process.

Mothers of young babies have been forced back into the workplace due to financial or cultural pressures, or have been without clear guidance or support in healing their own emotional wounds and trauma patterns, which are then passed on to future generations. This is the most fundamental problem in modern society. Of course men play a very important role in this process too, because they help provide the stable financial, material and emotional container for the mother to be free to bond with the baby without worry of how she will get by in the external world. Also, the father’s love and emotional connection to the baby provides an even deeper sense of security for the baby than is present with the mother alone.

It takes a concerted cultural intervention to heal this issue. We now have a clear picture of the therapeutic tools that humans respond to. The only resolution comes from placing the highest social-cultural priority on healing this issue in the current generation of new mothers and in the society at large that creates the systems and means to either support young mothers or not. A concerted effort would break the current devolutionary pattern and starts a new evolutionary trend toward a society that raises more emotionally stable and loving humans.

The culture of monkeys will always be heading on a trajectory back toward love, bonding and healing. In the case of monkeys, after several generations, they will be much more healed. Because if there is one parent who is very emotionally disturbed, her children will be disturbed, but if she is present to mother them in any way they will be less disturbed than her, and then their children will be more healed than them, and this pattern of improvement one generation to the next will continue. So they will come back to wholeness if they have a cultural system around them that supports them to heal …

What happens in humans is that the culture continues to support the disruption of the mother baby bond. If we were a logical species, what we would do is throw all of our resources at changing the culture so the next generation of mothers and babies could be healed, creating a culture devoted to mother baby bonding. In several generations the problem would be completely healed, and we would be reset back to love and trust. The true social pathology in humans is that this research has been known by scientists and psychologists for at least 60 years, but still we live in a culture that does not value or support mother-baby bonding.

The latest research shows that mother-baby bonding and emotional imprinting actually begins in the Womb – it is during gestation that many of the fundamental emotional and biological patterns are first formed in children. This is the most potent time for mother-baby bonding, followed by the first three years of babyhood.

Q. What can be done to heal these negative imprints?

There are many healing modalities; Fountain of Life offers the healing course “Womb of Life: Total Rebirth” which helps to heal people’s own emotional and epigenetic traumas imprinted during their time in the Womb, so they can heal themselves and stop passing on dysfunctional patterns. If society supported everyone to receive this kind of healing work, the world would change very quickly. In the Polynesian cultures, the 9 months of gestation was considered a sacred time for the mother. The mother was treated to an environment of the utmost peace, calm, and beauty because they knew that care and attention given during this important window of development would have a profound positive effect on the developing baby.

It is not just about the baby physically being at home with the mother. The mother must also be emotionally healed enough so that she can provide a safe loving emotional container for the baby and a mature soulful presence. If a baby has full time contact with an emotionally disturbed mother, the baby will inherit that legacy of emotional pain.

When we look at more primal traditional ‘Feminine’ cultures like the Polynesians and Pygmies and many others, they put a much greater emphasis on honoring the mother, baby and the bonding between them, because they knew that this was the underpinning of their entire society. If the devalued the mother and the Womb, they devalued their society. If they disturbed the mother, they would disturb society. It is common sense.

But what we see in our world is a widespread cultural disruption of the mother-baby bonding without the true desire to change it, for if we really had the desire we would do whatever was necessary to heal it. No cost would be too great. Women are not always supported by their husbands emotionally or financially. Many are raising children alone, without even the support of other family members. Often they have to work in stressful environments during pregnancy, where the chief agenda of the business is making profits,not the physical and emotional welfare of the mother. Even mothers who do not need to work are carrying their own unhealed emotions, which are denied and stuffed down, generation after generation.

In some progressive countries, such as some of the northern European countries, mothers are provided with financial support through pregnancy so they can choose not to work if that is best for them, and this support continues for the first several years of the baby’s life. Mothers also receive emotional counseling, education, and nursing support visits to make sure they are doing well themselves, and able to bond with and support the young baby. This is similar to what happened in tribal cultures, in which a high priority is placed on mother and family bonding with children. In Bali, a baby rarely touches the ground in their first year of life, because they are always being held by the mother or another family member. This is what it takes to heal.

The researchers who do this work recognize on an intellectual level that all it takes is a single generation of putting lots of love, attention and resources into pregnant women and young mothers to fundamentally change society. And, the benefits of course are not just about mothers and babies, but this degree of attention given to healing mothers fundamentally changes the next generation of men because they will be more well-mothered and well-adjusted. In the current world, men are emotionally wounded because of disrupted bonding with their mothers. Healed men are better able to support their women and children. A great example is the healed wild male monkey who plays with his children, whereas the disrupted male monkeys may hurt or even kill their children. Or the healed wild male monkey who mates to establish social bonds, or the disrupted male money who enacts violent and aggressive sexual contact, through rape.

All it takes is healing one generation to create an incredible shift, and after seven generations we would truly be living in healed and harmonic society again. The research that documents the effects of a being in a loving and nurturing environment during gestation and the first three years of life is incredible. Hundreds of scientific papers show that it effects every aspect of our development – from our future intelligence, creative capacity, success in school, brain development, social skills, biological health, capacity to thrive financially, chances at having successful relationships, parenting capacity, overall happiness, and on and on. When you look at the reams of data you can see that it is not just our emotional well-being that is effected, but our actual biology as well, including our chances of being obese or getting cancer.

As a baby our mother represents God to us – if she is punishing and volatile, that is how we perceive the Creator, the Source of Life, as something punishing that might love us in one moment or lash out at us in the next. Whereas if we have a loving and harmonious relationship with our mother, that expands outwards such that we trust that Life or our Creator is loving and benevolent. Our mother represents our very faith in life and creation.

We created the Womb of Life course to heal this fundamental wound in society. And there other examples of course of rebirthing and healing techniques that address these issues, and movements for natural home birthing, orgasmic birthing, mother-baby bonding, communicating to the baby in the Womb, conscious conception, etc. There are many modalities – it is for all of us to engage in this healing path. It doesn’t begin with just changing society or by implementing public health policies, it also begins with healing ourselves emotionally and spiritually. If enough people do this a massive shift in society can happen very quickly and the culture can change.

Some people mistakenly think we cannot heal our own experiences, that the damage is already done. But not only can we heal ourselves, we must heal ourselves. That is what will save the world. It is not just about healing all the young mothers, we actually have to heal the split in ourselves, rebirth ourselves, re-parent ourselves, and when we do our lives changes, and our children’s lives also change – and a new possibility of human consciousness is birthed.

What we can understand on a cognitive level does not automatically translate to our own emotional healing, because that takes the courage to feel, and the courage to make changes in our lives. Any deep emotional healing will bring with it fundamental changes in the way we live our life. We can choose a new way – committing to being Mothers and Fathers of New Earth.

Womb of Life – Total Rebirth, a 30-day online course to heal emotional, biological, epigenetic imprints from our conception, gestation and birth, dissolve looping negative emotional patterns forged in the Womb, and to restore a whole and healed consciousness of trust in life and love.


Artist Credits (in order of appearance): John Liston Byam Shaw ‘Maidens’ (public domain)